Dad

From the day you discover "we're pregnant!" to the day of delivery, a lot can happen. Especially if you're a first-time dad, you may be wondering what to expect, and how you can be most helpful to the mom-to-be. Getting involved in the pregnancy will make the experience better and easier for both you and your partner. So, what can Dad do?

Being Prepared

  • What in the world is happening to your wife? Explore our Pregnancy Guide to learn more about what's happening to the mom-to-be, and how baby is growing each trimester.
  • Since she will become less and less able to do things around the house, you may have to step up to the plate with all the changes needed -- painting the nursery, assembling the crib, generally making room for baby!
  • Attend Parent Education classes with the mom-to-be. Partners are encouraged to attend all tours and childbirth preparation classes, and you'll feel more confident about what to expect throughout the pregnancy and birthing experience.
  • Make sure you know all the ins and outs of the hospital. Take a tour of ST. FRANCIS eastside to learn more about registration paperwork, being present during delivery, visitor rules and more.
  • Help pack for delivery day. Download a checklist of what to bring.
  • Get directions and map your route to ST. FRANCIS eastside.

Ten Tips for New Dads

Source: Robin Elise Weisse, LCCE / About.com

  1. Remember that babies aren't really breakable. Don't be afraid to hold yours! Ask someone who is around to show you some great holds for little ones, whether it be a midwife, doctor, nurse, doula, mom, relative, friend, etc.
  2. If you are feeling left out, talk to your partner about it. Chances are it's not on purpose.
  3. New moms often have emotional ups and downs that are not predictable. Be supportive and offer an ear when possible. Learn the warning signs of postpartum depression and seek help if the situation is heading out of control.
  4. Support her with breastfeeding. Tell her that you're proud of her and protect her from well meaning but negative comments about breastfeeding. Take a breastfeeding class during the prenatal period if possible.
  5. Help with the other children or household. Remind mom to let the house go and to focus on her recovery and the new baby.
  6. New dads can also experience the blues or postpartum depression. Much in your life has changed and its important to realize this and get help if you need it as well.
  7. Remember that the only thing you can't do is breastfeed. You can change diapers, soothe a crying baby, carry the baby, play with the baby, anything the baby needs done.
  8. If you need help ask for it. Know who to call in your area for help and support whether it be a doctor or midwife, a postpartum doula, lactation consultant, or the local babysitter.
  9. Mom is going to need extra sleep and care while her body recovers. Get up with the baby when you can. Bring the baby to her in the middle of the night if possible. If you must go back to work check in with her during the day. Perhaps surprise her with some healthy take out food or fresh flowers.
  10. Remember that adding a new baby to the mix is always going to stir your life up a bit, even if it's not your first baby. Learning to live with another human being takes time. Give yourself a break if you need it as well.  

 

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